Sir: Why is that when a girl arrives at a ‘marriageable’ age, just as she crosses her teens, a man is allowed to enjoy his freedom until he has ‘settled himself’, which, most of the time, takes forever? Why is it that he is not nagged by nosy relatives with inquiries about his matrimonial decisions when a girl has to face an avalanche of questions from them at every family gathering? And even when she does get married, she can bid her privacy farewell after a year when the next big question is about when she is having children. Children are a huge responsibility and people should only have them when they are mentally and physically prepared for them, not when their khandaan (family) dictates them to.ALIZA ANEESKarachi