It’s 4am. The clock ticks, the moon glows, the dog snores and you just stare. Perhaps you stare into the blackish red of the inside of your eyelids as you lie still and foetal, thinking if you pretend to be sleeping, the real thing will surely come. Or maybe you stare at the paint chips in the ceiling, then the laundry on the floor, then the glowing 4:01am time, as you turn and shift and stare some more. And you know you shouldn’t be staring – you should be sleeping! You should be logging those crucial seven-plus hours of quality sleep each night and the frustration that you cannot will yourself to achieve that makes this 4:02am stare session all the more infuriating. And it’s hard to fall asleep when you’re infuriated, US News reports.
So what do you do? The second step to racking more zzz’s is to perfect your sleep hygiene. That means developing a regular sleep schedule, using your bed only for sleep and intimacy, and ditching electronics and caffeine well before bedtime. Here’s a sleep hygiene guide to get you started. But that second step is for the daylight hours. The first step is to get to sleep now – pronto – so you can grab at least a couple hours before the birds start chirping.
The tips below might help you sleep easier. Here’s the advice of Eric Olson, co-director of the Centre for Sleep Medicine at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester Minnesota and Harneet Walia, a doctor in the Cleveland Clinic’s Sleep Disorders Centre:
Get out of bed. When you lie awake in bed, you send yourself the wrong message. “You’re basically training your body not to sleep in bed, but to lie there and not sleep,” Walia says. “And your mind can get conditioned to that.” Olson puts it another way, “The longer we lie there and get frustrated in that environment, the more we come to anticipate it next time we’re there,” he says. “We come to associate the bedroom with not sleeping well.” So if you’re unable to sleep for about a 15 or 20-minute stretch, slip into your bunny slippers and out of the room. Try something relaxing and non-stimulating. Listen to music. Read a book. Even consider cleaning the house or doing the dishes, Olson suggests. A bath might do the trick, according to the National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute, because sleepiness can brew from the post-bath drop in body temperature. Whatever activity you choose, do it away from bed, and return when you’re feeling drowsy.
Try relaxation techniques. Call to arms whatever relaxation tips you know to combat this inappropriately timed alertness. Try your favourite calming yoga pose (Savasana, anyone?). Meditate. In this travel meditation article, neuroscience researcher Catherine Kerr explains a simple way of unwinding through breathing. You simply note the rising and falling of your breath, and focus on the parts of your body where you feel these slow inhales and exhales, whether it’s in the lungs, abdomen, tip of your nose or elsewhere. Walia suggests progressive muscle relaxation: Working from your toes to your forehead, tightly tense each muscle group for five seconds, and then relax. Visualization is another classic relaxing technique, in which you picture yourself someplace pleasant and calm. And what about the mother of all sleep remedies – counting sheep? Olson views this as a “mental distraction technique,” like visualisation. With sleep, he says, “the harder you try to get it, often the more elusive it is.” So whether you’re counting farm animals or picturing yourself in a hammock in Cabo, the idea is the same, Olson says. “You’re getting your mind off of ‘I can’t sleep; I can’t sleep; I can’t sleep,’ and onto something else.”
Ease anxiety. Sometimes the sleeplessness stems from worry. Your brain is on overdrive, thinking about your bank account and the big meeting tomorrow and your kid’s detention. For people who consistently have trouble “quieting the mind” at night, Olson suggests trying “to train your mind to think about those things at more appropriate times of the day.” Schedule a time each day – say, between work and dinner – to simply write a sentence or two about what’s worrying you and where you stand with that. “Maybe it’s as simple as, ‘I thought about this today, but I don’t have any real solutions right now,’” Olson says. By systematically documenting these worries during the day, ideally, you’ll be less likely to fixate on them at night. Of course logging your troubles is all well and good, but it’s a habit you build in the light of day, during the hours when you’re supposed to be studious and bright. It’s not particularly helpful when you’re wide awake at 4am.
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